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5 Reasons Why A Woman Would Rather Be Single

5 Reasons Why A Woman Would Rather Be Single

Single-woman-couchMadhuparna Roy Sukul, TIR, 15 July 2014: A woman, when she is nearing 30 or already over the so called age bar in our country, is suddenly seen skeptically by all around her. People start conjuring up their own theories of the apparent reason behind her decision to stay single.This is because even with the talks of India set to become the third largest economy by 2030 or with the dreams of being the next superpower, the mindset of most Indian families seeking a “bahu” for their “ladla” still seems to linger in the retrogressive days!
We recently heard the news of “Alia Bhatt” who is just 21, being approached with marriage proposals from prospective mother-in-laws! And, this is just because of her portrayal of a nice “bahu” material on screen! Considering the fact that she is going to work for another 10 years, which is generally a trend in the Indian film industry, we wonder if the aunts will be still around with the same proposal years later.
We already know the three major reasons that intrigue a woman to stay single: being independent, being financially and emotionally self-sufficient and developing career prospects.
However, there are other facets to this as well:
  • Rising divorce rates
With 1 out of every 100 marriages leading to divorce in India, it is a cultural shock to the country that has been taking pride in its values and traditions for years. One of the reasons stated by CIA Factbook for the upsurge in divorce cases in India is due to women becoming more self-dependent financially.  Earlier even in dire situations or even when the union wasn’t productive or when the husband would ill-treat her mentally or physically, she had no option of walking out of marriage as she and her kids were dependent on the man financially. However, now with financial independence, the thought of giving herself to a man with no guarantee of a successful marriage forces her to think again. Also, she has the option of walking out of an unproductive marriage.
  • Where is the relationship quotient?
As per some recent reports, there is a woman dying almost every hour on an average due to dowry related issues in India. Even though it is more common in rural areas, the urban populationis also not far behind in this “tradition”. In a country where over 60% of marriages are arranged, all the aspects are discussed upon between the two families and only if agreed, things move ahead. Well, that also includes the financial discussionswhich we call “dowry”. Some are upfront and for some it is just an age old tradition and a “gift” to the bride from her parents.This practice is also noticed in love marriages where the parents willingly give away money, cars, or jewelry in the name of “gift” to their daughters! This brings along the ugly face of the marriage which starts on a note of a give and take relationship between the in-laws and the daughter in law. Such issues make a broad-minded and independent single woman only more wary about the concept of marriage.
  • Not allowed to pursue her passion (in most cases)
In some Indian marriages, women are expected to not continue with their profession after marriage as it’s either not a tradition in their families for women to work or they do not need her income! Surprisingly, these conditions are even fine with the girl’s parents who spent a majority of their lives honing and nourishing their daughters’ educational and professional skills. This is a good enough reason for all talented single women to not go for a marriage where her passion and career prospects will be killed.
  • At least one of your parents have a stereotype thinking
We always blame it on the husbands, in laws and the whole world, butmany a times the defectors are found in our own homes. It can be worse when one’s parentshave a regressive mindset that a girl should always marry at a certain age and if needed should sacrifice her profession for her family life. You may have somehow managed to build a career with the help of one of your parents; but the other half is ready to spoil it all. Your mother may be busy match-making but this forced association creates another reason for those dynamic single women to stay away from marriage.
  • Because woman are their own enemies!
Whether she is a mother in law or your own mother, you will get to listen to things which you won’t believe are spoken by women themselves! You will listen to all sorts of things related to women should not wear clothes that attract men, you should not make friends who are divorcees or have boyfriends, your friend circle should not include men, you should not go out alone for any of your needs and so on.. We have seen a few elderly women running NGOs that support women empowerment and liberalization; however, the same elderly woman suppresses her own daughter-in- law at home! Hence, if women dig graves for their own, there is nothing much that we can talk about the male counterparts and thereby giving another good reason to stay single!
Of course, marriages have their own pros and cons. However, if you are an independent single woman looking for the right man at the right time, you have all the rights to get hitched at your preferred age, according to your own choice and with no conditions applied which can ensure a life free of prerequisites and a life partner with a liberal outlook.

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