Violence- Truth or Delusion?
Robert J. Burrowes, KalimNews, Kalimpong, 17 May 2017: One inevitable outcome of the phenomenal violence we all suffer as children is that most of us live in a state of delusion throughout our lives. This makes it extraordinarily difficult for accurate information, including vital information about the endangered state of our world and how to respond appropriately, to penetrate the typical human mind.
‘Phenomenal violence?’ you might ask. ‘All of us?’ you wonder. Yes, although, tragically, most of this violence goes unrecognised because it is not usually identified as such. For most people, it is a straightforward task to identify the ‘visible’ violence that they have suffered and, perhaps, still suffer. However, virtually no-one is able to identify the profoundly more damaging impact of the ‘invisible’ and ‘utterly invisible’ violence that is inflicted on us mercilessly from the day we are born.
So what is this ‘invisible’ and ‘utterly
invisible’ violence?
‘Invisible’ violence is the ‘little things’ that adults do to children every day, partly because they are just ‘too busy’. For example, when adults do not allow time to listen to, and value, a child’s thoughts and feelings, the child learns to not listen to themself thus destroying their internal communication system. When adults do not let a child say what they want (or ignore them when they do), the child develops communication and behavioural dysfunctionalities as they keep trying to meet their own needs (which, as a basic survival strategy, they are genetically programmed to do).
When adults blame, condemn, insult, mock, embarrass, shame, humiliate, taunt, goad, guilt-trip, deceive, lie to, bribe, blackmail, moralize with and/or judge a child, they both undermine their sense of Self-worth and teach them to blame, condemn, insult, mock, embarrass, shame, humiliate, taunt, goad, guilt-trip, deceive, lie, bribe, blackmail, moralize and/or judge.
The fundamental outcome of being bombarded throughout their childhood by this ‘invisible’ violence is that the child is utterly overwhelmed by feelings of fear, pain, anger and sadness (among many others). However, parents, teachers, religious figures and other adults also actively interfere with the expression of these feelings and the behavioural responses that are naturally generated by them and it is this ‘utterly invisible’ violence that explains why the dysfunctional behavioural outcomes actually occur.
For example, by ignoring a child when they express their feelings, by comforting, reassuring or distracting a child when they express their feelings, by laughing at or ridiculing their feelings, by terrorizing a child into not expressing their feelings (e.g. by screaming at them when they cry or get angry), and/or by violently controlling a behaviour that is generated by their feelings (e.g. by hitting them, restraining them or locking them into a room), the child has no choice but to unconsciously suppress their awareness of these feelings.
However, once a child has been terrorized
into suppressing their awareness of their feelings (rather than being allowed
to have their feelings and to act on them) the child has also unconsciously
suppressed their awareness of the reality that caused these feelings. In brief,
this means that the child now lives in a state of delusion. And because this
state was caused by terrorizing the child, the child is unable to perceive the
series of delusions in which they now live.
Moreover, unless the child (or, later,
adult) consciously feels their fear and terror, it will be extraordinarily difficult
for them to perceive anything beyond the delusions that they acquired during
childhood. This is simply because the various elements of the child’s
delusional state (the ‘values’, beliefs, attitudes, prejudices, biases) were
the ones approved by the key adults – parents, teachers, religious figures – in
the child’s life.
Needless to say, living in a delusional
state has many outcomes that are disastrous for the individual, for society and
for nature because the individual will now behave on the basis of their
delusions rather than in response to an accurate assessment of all available
information through appropriate sensory, emotional, intellectual and
conscientious scrutiny. For a full explanation of this process, see ‘Why
Violence?’ http://tinyurl.com/whyviolence and ‘Fearless Psychology and Fearful Psychology:
Principles and Practice’. http://anitamckone.wordpress.com/articles-2/fearless-and-fearful-psychology/
In essence then, the typical human being
lives in a delusional state and this state is held in place by enormous, but
unconscious, terror: the unfelt and hence unreleased childhood terror of being
endlessly threatened and punished (for not complying with parental or other
adult ‘authority’ throughout childhood).
And if you have ever tried to persuade
someone, by argument of an intellectual nature, that a belief they hold is inaccurate
and wondered why you couldn’t get anywhere, it is because you have run into
their unconscious terror. And sheer terror beats the best argument in the world
‘hands down’.
So when you listen to people like Donald
Trump and Marine Le Pen, or ponder those politicians and military generals who
conduct endless wars, or watch those people on the street protesting against
Muslims and refugees, or watch police beating up another indigenous or black
person, or hear someone else deny the climate science, remember that you are
witness to a person or people living in a terrified and delusional state that
prevents them from perceiving and responding intelligently to reality. And
that, in the case of political and corporate leaders, they only have the
support to do what they do because a great many other delusional individuals
(including voters and employees) enable them.
Equally importantly, however, it is also
necessary to recognise that a delusional state afflicts many of those we like
to regard as ‘on our side’. It is just that their delusions work differently,
perhaps, for example, by making them believe that only token ‘make it up as you
go along’ responses (rather than comprehensive strategies) are necessary if we
are to work our way out of the multifaceted crisis in which human society now
finds itself. This is why many ‘leaders’ of liberation struggles as well as
activist movements concerned with ending war(s) and the climate catastrophe,
for example, are so unable to articulate appropriately visionary and functional
strategies. But the problem afflicts many other ‘progressive’ social movements
as well, which limp along making only occasional or marginal impact, if they
have any impact at all.
So what are we to do? Well, the most
important thing you can do is to never consciously participate in a delusion,
whether your own or that of anyone else. I say ‘consciously’ of course because
unless you identify the delusion, you will not be able to avoid participating
in it. And there are probably few humans in history who have avoided all of the
delusions their culture threw at them. If they did, they were probably outcast
or killed. Christ, Gandhi and King are reasonably good examples of people in
this latter category. But, historically speaking, many activists have been
killed for refusing to participate in elite-promoted delusions. And many others
have been marginalised, one way or another, depending on the culture.
The value of not participating in a
delusion, whether someone’s personal delusion or a widespread social one,
arises from the impact you have on those around you: some of these people will
have the courage to reflect on your behaviour and reconsider their own.
If you believe you are relatively free of
delusion and are committed to taking serious steps to tackle one or more
aspects of our multifaceted global crisis, then you are welcome to consider
making ‘My Promise to Children’, https://nonviolentstrategy.wordpress.com/strategywheel/constructive-program/my-promise-to-children/and to consider participating in ‘The Flame
Tree Project to Save Life on Earth’, http://tinyurl.com/flametreesigning the online pledge of ‘The People’s
Charter to Create a Nonviolent World’ https://thepeoplesnonviolencecharter.wordpress.com/and/or considering using the strategic
framework on one or the other of these two websites for your campaign or
liberation struggle: Nonviolent Campaign Strategy https://nonviolentstrategy.wordpress.com/and Nonviolent Defense/Liberation Strategy.
https://nonviolentliberationstrategy.wordpress.com/
Living the truth on a daily basis is a
tough road. And it will never come without cost. But living in the comfort of
delusion, rather than taking action, is the path of cowards.
Robert J.
Burrowes has a lifetime commitment to understanding and ending human violence.
He has done extensive research since 1966 in an effort to understand why human
beings are violent and has been a nonviolent activist since 1981. He is the
author of ‘Why Violence?’ http://tinyurl.com/whyviolence His email address is flametree@riseup.net and his website is here. http://robertjburrowes.wordpress.com
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